In todays fast paced world of self service, fast food,
cellular phones, and personal gratification I think we have lost romance.
Look at todays couples the one you all know and see daily. How
many of them do you see that seem to truely be romancing each other? I honestly
dont know a single couple {not in there 60's or older} that exude romance
caring and love. That is a scary thought.
I am a firm believer that if men and women today took more
time to listen too and romance thier mates we would see less divorce and
separation. I believe that most dont know how to be romantic.
Romance is not how much you can spend on your partner, it is
showing your partner that you love them, understand them and care.
The biggest thing is communication, listen to your spouse/mate
and truely hear what they are saying. We have all been in relationships and if
you think back too the begining the thing that attracted you too each other was
actually listening to one another. Each individual listened to the other and
used what they heard to help the relationship grow. Listened to wants, hopes,
dreams, and desires. And in the begining both of you tried to please of fullful
the others asperations. Think about it.
For women out there who think men dont care to be romantic
or suave, trust me they do they all want to be everything to every woman. If
given a choice and asked who would you like most to be like James Bond or Pee
Wee Herman I think we all know the answer.
Romance is in my eyes, listening to your mate's desires,
thier wants, thier dreams, thier asperations, even just listening to them
complain that they had a bad day. {truely listening}
Romance is expressing your interest on a daily level for a
lifetime. Shut off the TV, put down the video game, put thier needs in front of
yours if only for a moment so they know that you care.
And guys romance isnt sex. Sex can be romantic, it can be
animalistic, is can be consumed with passion. But the romantic part is actually
in the foreplay and the after play {YES I SAID AFTERPLAY} for those of you who
dont know what that is it is simply talking to her, caressing her, listening to
her, fulfilling her desires instead of your own, or rolling over and going to
sleep. Also remember foreplay isnt 5 minutes of fondling it is actually every
moment you spend with him/her up until the moment you make love each time it
starts in the morning when you get up before she does and YOU get her coffee,
when YOU take care of the kids for a change, when you just caress her cheek and
give her a gentle kiss on your way out the door in the morning and let her know
how you feel, yes you may have won the prize { meaning her affection} but she always
wants to feel as though you are still in the race and that you appreciate what
you have.
Romance is making her feel as though no one else exist in
the world. And it isnt that hard to tell her that, if it is hard to tell her or
him that leave you dont need to be with them.
Romance is doing things for your lover, giving them a bath,
looking into thier eyes and telling them how you feel. True love doesnt have to
be spoken but shown to your lover on a daily basis.
Both men and women need to be romanced, they both stray at
times not having what they need at home and that is romance, understanding,
caring and compassion.
I am curious as to how many of you agree ?
Tags: Modern Romance
